It can be discouraging if you’re one of those people who find it difficult to stay in a relationship that is both happy and healthy. Perhaps you recently got divorced and you are feeling like love is just not in your future? Whatever the case may be, don’t give up hope. No matter who you are or what kind of life you lead, you should never resign yourself to a life of singledom. There is someone out there for you.
Of course, no matter how many times you hear these words, it is hard to not feel desperate or hopeless. It’s understandable. Despite your efforts, you are still the only single person among your friends, your family is getting on your case about finding someone to settle down with, and the voice in your head only brings you down.
Just remind yourself these simple things when you start to get down about being single.
1. You Get What You Give
The saying goes, “What comes around goes around,” and this pretty much goes for everything in life, whether you are a guy with 20 items in the 10 items or less line at the grocery store, or if you help a little kid with a school project. This mentality also includes how you think and act. If you think you are going to be single, chances are you are acting like you are not interested in finding love. Now this doesn’t mean wear a sign that says you are single and ready to mingle (sorry, I couldn’t help myself!), but it does mean be open to any opportunity to form a connection with someone. You never know where that connection may go.
2. The World is Your Oyster
So maybe you haven’t had the best luck trying to find someone you can connect with on an intimate and romantic level. You’ve had a few people who seemed really cool, but things never panned out. Look, don’t be so hard on yourself. Perhaps you need to branch out from your usual spots and try something new. You can also try an online dating. Here, you are broadening your chances of meeting someone that you can see yourself falling head over heels in love with. You never know until you try!
3. Try, Try, and Try Again
No matter how many times you feel like throwing in the towel after a particularly bad date, don’t! Do not give up hope! Out of the six billion people on this planet, there is someone out there for you. You don’t want to give up and have that special someone come and go without you even realizing it. While you are trying to find that person you can fall in love with, you are also leaving yourself open to other types of relationships. People don’t seem to realize that any opportunity is a great chance to meet people—whether for a romantic connection, professional, or just make a new friend. You can never know what is in the cards.