So you’re a single dad and you’ve decided that you want to be in the company of someone besides your kids. Hey, that’s perfectly fine. Raising kids is no walk in the park and sometimes you just need to spend time with someone who likes to drink their grape juice with a little more bite. LoveBeginsAt.com has surveyed the single dads who use the dating service what advice would they give to single dads who are just jumping back into the dating world. Here are their answers.
Rule 1. Take it Slow
If you recently got out of a relationship or marriage with your kids mother, or even if you are a widower, ease your way back into dating, instead of diving in head first. When you decide to date again, timing can mean everything. You know you are not ready to date again if the thought of the kids’ mother evokes anger, resentment, bitterness, and even love—then you aren’t ready.
Rule 2. Talk with Your Kids
The moment you decide you are ready to date again, talk to your kids. How you talk to them about the situation depends greatly on their age, but the message should be the same. Make sure they know that they are the most important people in your life and that will never change, but you need some friends your own age to spend time with.
Rule 3. Be Picky When Choosing a Partner
Be picky when you are choosing the person you want to spend your time with. Not only are you going to be around them a lot and you want to make sure you enjoy their company, but you also want to consider if they will be a good influence on your children. Not only that, but should things become serious, you want to make sure that they are dependable and can rise to any emergency if you are unavailable to be there.
Rule 4. Be Certain Before You Introduce the Kids
Introducing new people into your children’s life can be confusing for them, especially if it happens frequently. Before you decide to introduce your children to the person you are seeing, you want to make sure both of you are ready for them to be a part of your kids’ lives.
Rule 5. Be Aware of How You Divide Your Time
A common mistake single dads make when dating again after a long time is by devoting more time to the person they are seeing then their children. You never want to trade up time with your kids in favor for the person you’re seeing because that relationship can fade over time and maybe they will be out of your life within a few months or years, but your children will always be a part of your life and they will remember how you chose So-and-So over them.